Making Good Choices – FHE Lesson

What Will Ye That I Should Do?

Teach your family about the Brother of Jared and how he prayed to find answers that would help him make good choices. Heavenly Father taught him how to solve problems on his own, and look to Him for guidance. We can use this example in our own daily decisions.

Teach the entire lesson, or just choose a few sections. Use whichever parts will suit your family and your schedule best!

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Principles: Decision Making, Agency

“In the Book of Mormon, the brother of Jared sets a good example of how the Lord lets us solve our own problems with his guidance. We are thinking, reasoning human beings. We have the ability to identify our needs, to plan, to set goals, and to solve our problems. May each of us use our creative reasoning to do all in our power to solve our problems and then look to the Lord for the reassuring, peaceful confirmation that we have made the right decision.” ~Robert D. Hales


Reverence Time:

Song: Children’s Songbook #160, “Choose the Right Way”

Scripture: Ether 2:22-23

“And he cried again unto the Lord saying: O Lord, behold I have done even as thou hast commanded me; and I have prepared the vessels for my people, and behold there is no light in them. Behold, O Lord, wilt thou suffer that we shall cross this great water in darkness?

And the Lord said unto the brother of Jared: What will ye that I should do that ye may have light in your vessels? For behold, ye cannot have windows, for they will be dashed in pieces; neither shall ye take fire with you, for ye shall not go by the light of fire.”

Video Clip: Animated Book of Mormon The Brother of Jared ch. 9-10



Lesson Time:

(For younger children, it may be helpful to summarize the following ideas)

The decisions and choices we make can bring us happiness or unhappiness.

The people of Babel called evil good when they made the decision to build a tower to reach God. This decision brought them unhappiness. The Brother of Jared and his family and friends were blessed because they made a choice to choose good in an evil world.

What are some of the decisions in an evil world that we have to make?
(Discuss ideas.)

“As we look into the future, we are going to need to be stronger and more responsible for our choices in a world where people ‘call evil good, and good evil.’ (2 Nephi:15:20) We do not choose wisely if we use our agency in opposition to God’s will or to priesthood counsel. Tomorrow’s blessings and opportunities depend on the choices we make today.” James E. Faust, Ensign, May 2004 © Intellectual Reserve, Inc. All rights reserved.

Making simple decisions when we are young can help us make bigger decisions as we grow older.

Heavenly Father’s plan involves making decisions. In our premortal lives we made the decision to accept Heavenly Father’s plan. Part of God’s plan was for us to come to earth to be tested according to His commandments and that we would have moral agency to choose. Decision making is a lifelong learning experience. When making important decisions we should always turn to Heavenly Father for help. He has also given us commandments, prophets, scriptures, parents and teachers to help us make good decisions.

After the Brother of Jared and his people built barges using the Lord’s instructions, they were worried about how they would steer them, have air to breath and light to see. Heavenly Father told the Brother of Jared what to do for air and how He would guide them. He also gave instructions on what wouldn’t work to light the barges, but He did not tell him how to light the barges.

Why didn’t the Lord tell the Brother of Jared how to light the barges?
(Discuss ideas. Emphasize that the Lord was teaching the Brother of Jared how to make good decisions.)

There are many decisions in our lives, like lighting the barges, that we will need to make that are not between good and bad, but rather choosing the best thing to do at the time. These decisions should be made after carefully studying our options and then doing what we feel is best to do at the time. For many of the decisions we have to make there is not just one right answer.

Was the Brother of Jared’s solution to lighting the barges the only thing that would have worked? (Discuss ideas.)

Are some of the decisions we make in life affected by our circumstances and opportunities? (Discuss ideas.)

“The choices we make, however, determine to a large extent our happiness or our unhappiness, because we have to live with the consequences of our choices. … Some choices present good opportunities no matter which road we take—for example, when deciding which career path to follow or which school to attend. I know one bright and able young man who wanted to become a doctor, but the opportunity did not open up for him; so he chose to follow the law. He has become a very successful lawyer, but I am satisfied he would have been equally successful as a doctor.”
James E. Faust, Liahona, May 2004 © Intellectual Reserve, Inc. All rights reserved.

What are some of the decisions you had to make today?
(Discuss ideas. Examples: What to wear, what to eat, who to play with, to tell the truth or to tell a lie, etc.)

Pick a few of the decisions your family had to make and discuss:
Why they made the decision?
Who helped them make the decision?
Did circumstances or opportunities affect the decision made?
Was there another decision (good or bad) they could have made?
Do you feel good about the decision you made? If not, what did you learn?
Will this decision affect your future happiness?




 Activity Time: “What Should I Wear Today?”

Deciding what to wear is one of the first things we learn to do as children.

During this activity your children will not only have fun deciding what these cute paper dolls should wear, but they will find that learning to dress appropriately will help them to learn about using their agency and making good decisions throughout their lives.


You will need: A copy of the “Learning to Choose” activity (boy or girl paper doll and wardrobe for each child   [CLICK TO DOWNLOAD] scissors, glue, cardstock and tape. Optional: Laminating sheet

Explain: One of the first decisions that we learn to make is what clothes we are going to wear. This might seem like a simple decision, but like every decision thereare consequences. Learning to dress ourselves when we are young helps us to learn how to make good decisions. We can learn how making little decisions will help prepare us for making bigger decisions and using our agency wisely.

Ask: Why is it important what we choose to wear?
(Discuss ideas. Example: Dress appropriately for the occasion and for the weather, dress modestly, dress comfortably, etc.)

Ask: What are some the consequences that we face when we choose what to wear? (Discuss ideas. Example: Too hot or cold, not showing respect or disappointing Heavenly Father, uncomfortable, etc.)

Give each child a paper doll and set of clothes. Give examples and then have your children dress their paper dolls appropriately and inappropriately. Example: What would you wear to church? What wouldn’t you wear to church? Discuss reasons and consequences.


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Treat Time: “Choose the Right Stuff”-ed Crepes


Crepe Batter
1 1/2 c. milk
3 eggs
1/2 tsp. salt
2/3 c. flour

Chicken Filling & Sauce
(13 oz.) canned chicken breast
(or 1 c. shredded chicken)
(4 oz.) cream cheese
2 Tbs. finely diced onion
1 c. shredded cheese
(10 3/4 oz.) condensed Cream
of Mushroom soup
1/2 c. sour cream

Fruit Filling & Topping
( oz.) Pie filling
1/4 c. powdered sugar
Whipped cream topping

Crepe batter: Beat milk, eggs and salt until foamy. Add flour and beat until smooth. Put in refrigerator while you prepare chicken filling.

Chicken Filling and Sauce: Mix chicken, softened cream cheese and onion together. Heat in microwave for 1 min. Mix in 1/3 cup cheese. Cover with foil and place in a warm oven (250 degrees). Make sauce by combining soup and sour cream in a small sauce pan. Heat on medium until bubbly. Cover and reduce heat to low while you cook the crepes.

Crepes: Heat 8 inch skillet on medium heat. Coat pan with cooking spray or butter. Pour 1/8 c. batter into center of pan. Tilt the pan with a circular motion so that the batter coats the surface evenly. Cook until the edges start to brown and curl (about 1 minute). Loosen with a spatula and turn. Cook until golden (30-45 sec.) Stack the finished crepes on a plate. Keep covered with a dry cloth until ready to eat.

Put crepes, chicken filling, pie filling, powdered sugar, remaining cheese, whipped topping and cheese on table. Give each family member two crepes. “Choose the right” stuff for each crepe. (Chicken: Sauce and cheese. Pie filling: Powdered sugar and whipped topping.) Encourage children to use their own ideas to put their crepes together. Explain: You can assemble them several ways, but some ingredients taste better together than others. This is like the guidance God gives us to help us make good choices.


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